How to work and at the same time spend time with your family?

I have been working since I graduated in 2004, even before I graduated. I was one of those people who are afraid to get caught up in the net and not be able to get free. I started looking for a job in between classes, as a graduating student, I have a lot of time because I cramped all my hours to the previous months to have time to look for a job. I was so afraid I wouldn’t be able to land one and be left behind. Needless to say, I landed a job and I was great at it too, I love learning new things so that drive took me where I wanted to be.

Fast forward to 2014, that’s the worse year of my life. That’s the year my sister got sick, that’s when it hit me, I thought I have more time but I didn’t, we didn’t. All these times that she was healthy and okay what was I doing? I was busy chasing the dream. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that, my sister, who was a very big part of my life wanted that for me, but I know I should have still spent time with my family. That’s when I stumbled on working online.

These days, there are a lot of people working from home. There’s no shortage of skilled people everywhere, but no matter how many there are there are still far more companies who are looking for talented and trustworthy workers. What do you need to do?

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  • Know what you’re good at or at least know what to do. Think of all the jobs you did before and what are the skills you’ve mastered through the years. This will be your base skill and you can build from there.
  • Update your resume. This will give the employer a glimpse of what you can do as a VA and what are the tasks that you have done in your previous jobs.
  • Know what’s the trending job, second most trending job, and jobs that are related to your skills. This will give you a little leeway in terms of looking for a job. Try to learn the skills for those trending jobs.
  • Learn new skills or brush up on skills you already have. What I did when I started was watch YouTube “how to” videos. This helped me a lot since I’m more of a visual learner. You can use how to books or how to manuals if you’re more comfortable with that.
  • Create your profile in freelancer websites. Make sure that you complete your profile and take tests if there are any (like in Upwork).
  • Ever since I worked online the freelancer sites that I have frequented to are Upwork,, and freelancer. But those are just in the Philippines. There are a number of sites if you search them in Google, just check their evaluation or ratings just to be sure.
  • When applying, remember to tailor fit your cover letter. This gives the impression that you have read the job posting, is serious in applying, and you know that you are the right fit for the job or you know how to do the job posted. Sending generic cover letters sends a signal that you just shoot away until you hit something. That impression is never a good sign.

Just remember, really reading and understanding what you’re reading is the key to success in knowing what to put in your cover letters, know your worth, know your market, know your skill, and maximize the potential of the freelancer websites out there. I hope this helps! 🙂


Through my eyes

Light is to Dark

Beginning is to end

The only difference there is

Where you choose to bask and begin again

PING BACK ~ In Other Words – Lightness

I can do this!!!

In my previous posts, I mentioned that I had a difficult year last year, there were a lot of failures that upset me and made me doubt myself at some point. I even blamed a lot of people for it, maybe they have a hand on it but it’s not entirely their fault, it was mine.

As soon as I eventually owned up to it, I had a sense of calmness and peace that I haven’t felt for a long time. I am still in a fix right now, but it’s not as heavy as before. It doesn’t wear me down anymore. I realized that the burdens of life are not really from life itself but how you see it. Like the time I lost my job, it’s either I see it as a turmoil that can end me or see it as a sign that maybe I am for something else.

There will still be a lot of hurdles a long the way for as long as we are breathing there will always be things that will eventually help us be better and grow. Despite of that, I will hold on to my faith and the belief that I was put in this world not to despair but to grow and flourish. I won’t say be good to me 2019 but I’d say “never leave my side God for you with you everything is possible. ” I can do this, we all can!


There is a saying in Filipino that until you have a child of your own, one that you carried for 9 months and gave birth to you will never be complete as a woman. But it’s 2019 already, gone are the days that women stay at home and take care of their family, although some still do and I respect that. I think it takes a great deal of sacrifice, love and commitment to do that. But what about those who can’t have children? Or those that chose a different life altogether? Does that mean that they are not fulfilled as a woman? Does that mean they’re incomplete?

Just like what they say about men, any man can father a child but it takes a real man to be a father, I think the same goes for women. I am not feminist or anything that thinks that women are of men’s equal. I don’t think they ever will. Maybe they say that in terms of career or life choices, and decisions. Women have strengths that can never be compared or even met by any man, same goes for men, that is why there are women and there are men. If they can do just about the same thing then why is there a need for a distinction? They both can independently live, there’s no doubt about that but there are certain things that need the two of them to make it work.

Anyway, going back to my point about the state of being complete, if it were true that a woman can never be complete unless she bore a child, then what do you call those women who raise other women’s children, take them as their own, love them, nurture them? Aren’t they mothers as well? The same goes in this situation, any woman can bore a child (if they’re physically or physiologically able to), but it takes a complete woman to be a mother. Someone who is independent, strong-willed but caring & nurturing at the same time. Someone who sacrifices a lot so another human being will be able to reach it’s potential.

At the end of the day, whether you bore a child or not, if you were strong enough to accept the responsibility and choose not to conform to what the society dictates, you are a complete woman capable of greatness, compassion, and stability.

Songs of your soul

I think music is part of everyone’s journey. Whether you are aware of it or not. You may not listen to songs all the time but there are songs that just gets to you every time you hear it. They say that your favorite songs gives you a glimpse of who the person really is and what is important to him/her.

Mine is this song. It’s in our native language which is Tagalog. It is about your love for your mother as she grows old. I love my mom, she has sacrificed a great deal so I can be who I am now.

~ See Translation of the song~

I know it’s not just me but there’s a lot of you out there who has a certain song that just speaks to you. You can create a pingback if you’re in WordPress as well or just leave a comment with the link of the song that you’d like to share.


If wishes can grant 

to hold what I can reach out to with my hand 

I’d wish for you and hold you 

and tell you I love you and I finally understand

no matter how much we wanted, God has always better plans

PINGBACK ~ In other words, wishes


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2018 has been challenging for me, both personally and at work.  To give you a brief background of myself, I come from a family of five children.  We lost our sister back in 2015 due to cancer.  They say we should love our siblings the same as parents should love each and every child just the same, but I guess I am guilty of loving one sibling more than the others.  My older sister, Maribel, was technically the one who raised me and my younger brother as our parents go out every day to provide for the family.  I guess you can say we are close.  I don’t have a single childhood memory that doesn’t have her in it.  I never really thought she’d go before me or before any of us for that matter.  Her passing was difficult for all of us, probably most difficult for our mother, for no parent should ever bury their child.  Up to this day, she hasn’t visited my sister in the cemetery where she was laid to rest.  I asked her why, she said “If I see her name on a tombstone, it would only make it more real.  Now, I just think of it like she is just busy with her family that is why I don’t get to see her.” That broke my heart to a million pieces, as I too am having difficulty accepting the fact that she is no longer with us.

Fast forward to 2018, whenever I remember her I can still feel the pain of losing her as if it was just yesterday.  But I somehow learned to live with it. They say time heals all wounds, they actually don’t, you just learn to live with the fact that there will no longer be date nights with your sister or have a sleepover every now and again.  To deal with the pain, I focused my attention on the people who are still with me, especially our mother.  I worked day and night to at least give her a comfortable life.  The usual stuff, our mom is now 76 years old and has heart problems, so that would include making sure I have money for her medical expenses, she gets to go wherever she wants to and do whatever she wants to.  But some time this year, I had a problem at work that forced me to resign.  At the time, I felt betrayed by the people I thought were my friends, I felt that I failed our mom, I felt like I failed myself.  It took a while before I was able to get back on my feet and ready to take on new challenges.  As I was on my way to getting there, I experienced a couple of setbacks.  I said to myself, “You can’t expect the world to pause for you while you sulk and pity yourself.  If there’s one person who can help you, that would be YOU.”

I prayed and I never stopped trying to find work until I got hired. I didn’t just get one job but I was hired for two.  I have everything going again until I didn’t, again.  But this time, I won’t sulk or walk around like I lost my head, I will continue to move forward as I know this too shall pass.  I am alive, I woke up this morning, we have food on the table, our mom is okay, my nieces and nephews are wonderful, my brothers are doing okay.  It kind of reminded me a story I chanced upon while I was browsing ~

Once, all villagers decided to pray for rain.  On the day of prayer all people gathered but only ONE boy came with an umbrella.  That’s Faith.

When you toss a one year old baby in the air, he laughs because he knows you will catch him.  That’s Trust.

Every night we go to bed, we have no assurance to wake up alive next morning, but we set an alarm for tomorrow.  That’s Hope.

It hits close to home, as I was reminded to keep the Faith, learn to be steadfast and trust that God will never abandon me and Hope that everything will fall in its rightful place.  I still work my ass off, but I don’t worry anymore, I enjoy the day as it comes because I know in my heart it will all be alright.  I made it through 2018, but not alone.  I had tons of help from family and friends.  Happy New Year!  May this be a start of something new for you too and always remember to breathe and enjoy life.

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